Tag: bereavedmother
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It’s Still the Beginning
Written: August 11, 2025 In the beginning, I remember hearing, “Early grief is the first two years.” In the beginning, I remember wondering, “How could anyone bear this pain for years?” We are no longer at that beginning, but still, it is the beginning. And I continue to wonder, “How did we bear this pain for a…
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Can suffering produce any good?
Since Gemma passed, I see in my life that my capacities for gratefulness, love, joy and the ability to see beauty have enlarged. Suffering has filled these cups to the brim and they now overflow. I’m slowing down not just because of the burden of loss, but because my eyes now wear the lens of…
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My Body Remembers
Written: February 6, 2025 Another clump of hair clings to the shower wall. It’s been days of this.My hairbrush is full. I tear out the strands daily. I can tell my hair is thinning. This is a normal occurrence post-partum, to shed hair.It’s occurred with all three of my babies.Previously only a minor inconvenience Highlighting the abundance…
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Psalm 123 Remixed
Our Eyes Look to the Lord Our God To you I lift up my eyes, O you who are enthroned in the heavens! Behold, as the eyes of servants look to the hand of their master,as the eyes of a maidservant to the hand of her mistress,so our eyes look to the…
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We Met Five Months Ago
I sit here five months away from that terrible and beautiful day you were born. The day that started us on this path of separation. But it’s also the day I found out you had beautiful thick hair and fuzzy little shoulders.
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Remembering Her at Christmas
I sit here next to her grandparents’ Christmas tree, a cozy fire nearby. I should not be sad in a place like this, and yet sorrow finds me even when the happiest season of all encompasses me. Next to this lighted Christmas tree, I sit in my memory today, when four months ago, I triumphantly…
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A Christmas Song for the Bereaved
A baby was born at night to save creation, symbolizing hope amid suffering. The King of Kings arrives as Emmanuel, witnessing human pain and bringing light to darkness. Despite the sorrow, a new song of joy proclaims His presence, as angels celebrate the arrival of the newborn King.
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The God Who Weeps: Exploring Divine Sorrow
Grief is a right response to a world where children die. We want to hide the grieving away, to preserve our privileged view of security. We try to cover our vulnerability and the inevitability that suffering will come to us all. We want to pretend that the world isn’t writhing in agony, but the grieving…
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Love that Salvages Faith in the Face of Tragedy
“The rain fell, the rivers rose, and the winds blew and pounded that house. Yet it didn’t collapse, because its foundation was on the rock. ” Matthew 7:25 Belief and unbelief wage an invisible war within me. Moment-to-moment tides of the battle move back and forth in a tug-of-war over my hope and my soul. I find…
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9 Ways to Care for the Grieving Parent
Child loss is an incredibly difficult burden, not only on the family but also on friends and family in any sort of proximity. The fear of doing or saying the wrong thing can paralyze you. You don’t want to do something to make the pain worse. How do you actually run toward the suffering?
A Mother's Lament 